The other day I took a call from a co-worker of Jamie's.
She asked how my weekend was and I told her that it was okay but not great because I had got a cold. She then said she could totally relate. Part of me wanted to stop her right there and tell her she likely could NOT relate but I thought that would be rude and she proceeded to tell me how she too had come down with some sort of sickness and spent Saturday sleeping. That same part of me (the rude part) then wanted to say something to the effect of, "And that is the difference between those who have kids and those who don't." Spending Saturday in bed (sick or not) sounds amazing right about now.
Is there really a better way to spend your day than in bed?!?!
In my current sleep-deprived state, I think not.
Anyway, the rude part of me did not say those things (my filter still works at this point) and we commiserated about how rough it is to be sick.
But...that's one of the downsides of being a Mom. And I guess I just need to suck it up. Because there are a lot of upsides. :)
Oh sis, I can't say I know how you feel but "I can relate" are not usually words people want to hear haha I will remember that from now on when conversing with mommies ;)
ReplyDeleteyes, there are many upsides. i keep reminding myself that i am not a martyr just because i have tough mom days. women have gone before me and done it in far worse circumstances so there are times when i do need to just suck it up. still, being a mom is hard, plain and simple, and you're allowed to feel the weight of that, especially when you're sick.
ReplyDeletei DO actually know how you feel. last year i was pregnant with Eli and still nursing Zoe. both Uche and I were sick with a stomach virus. I would be nursing Zoe and feeling the nausea come on. I'd then have to hand her to him and run to the toilet to throw up. Then i would have to go back and finish nursing. What a mess! (meanwhile, Uche would then take his turn on the toilet...ah the joys...)
hang in there!! brighter days are coming!
Mel you are so right. I had not meant to sound like a martyr, but was definitely feeling the weight of continued sleep deprivation combined with sickness and felt the need to have a pity party for a second. :)
ReplyDeletei honestly didn't think you sounded like that. i just know that some days i feel that way and then have to remind myself that others have gone before me and that i'll make it through.
ReplyDeleteyou are allowed a (short) pity part every once in a while. :)